Hooh! Finally, finished pasting the stickers for the novel 'Interlok'. It was an official task! Before the section started, had a chat with a colleague. From the chat, I did a taboo myself ( I think ), where I forgot one of the lessons taught by Dale Carnegie. I read one of his books 12 years ago. Still remember that, one of the chapters was about how not to annoy others and make others to agree with you when doing talking and dealing with people. Actually, I have never forgotten this chapter but just that; sometimes, part of my inner stubbornness seems to be that strong, and strong enough to make me cross the 'taboo line' again and again ( stupid, right? ). Well, the weakness of flesh and blood ( my flesh and my blood, my own weakness ); which I would have to admit here 'quietly' ( grinning ). I really have to admit that I am very lousy in mastering this lesson. Still need to work harder on this, a rather simple stuff to some and the other way round to others. After all, I don't think anyone of us will be able to take one's stubbornness away easily. Saying that because it is 'normally' closely linked to one's belief and self-esteem ( my very personal opinion ). Stubbornness does need a 'breeze' and not 'hot sun' to be softened definitely. Well, flesh is flesh and blood is still blood; no matter how many times we are taught, sometimes human just forget this 'formula' ( Note: I mean some of us and not all of us here ).
The more you say no's to others' opinions, the more no's you will 'likely' to get as a return for your own opinion. Of course, this depends on the character of the listener too ( whether is this person flexible enough and how far can he/she accept, as everyone does have their own 'filter' when comes to listening to others ). The 'filter' mentioned here means 'not everything' that we hear with our ears physically will be accepted 100% mentally and spiritually. This is because everyone of us does have our own way of thinking and most of us do filter stuff that we don't really agree, like how our house water filter does the job.
The second taboo I did today, I explained a statement which I was not so agree with; in a rather 'bratty' way ( brattiness kills! ). I told her that, " We shouldn't deny this and that in the first place and so forth"; but what I didn't realize, I myself was also denying her thoughts at the same time, a weakness I used to overlook myself most of the time in some of my previous conversations. ( Overlooking, a rather 'good excuse' for forgiving myself :P )
Well, both of us never really fought but I do have something within myself here that needs my further attention after the taboos I made today. The taboos that I have known but still doing it again and again! Remember a funny phrase which I learnt from someone long time ago, "A bull will not learn!" ( If that is the case, then I am certainly the 'cow' I am sure. )
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